Cantor Deborah Katchko Gray Retires
By Aron Hirt-Manheimer
Cantor Katchko Gray, heir to a three-generation dynasty of celebrated cantors, is retiring after 25 years at Congregation Shir Shalom in Ridgefield. In addition to co-leading worship services with Rabbi David Reiner and Rabbi Jon Haddon before him. Cantor Debbie leaves a legacy of innovation and activism in the congregation, the community, and nationally.
Among her contributions to the congregation is creating the singing group “Talented Teens.” A former member thanked her in a letter “for inspiring me to sing. My a cappella group made it to the quarter finals of the ICCA (International a cappella competition). I couldn’t have done it without your mentorship.”
For the past 18 years in celebration of Martin Luther King Day, she brought to the congregation her “soul sister” Gigi Van Dyke, director of the Serendipity Chorale, performing “a lovefest spirituals” with members of the temple choir.
Her contributions to the Ridgefield community include serving on the Compassionate Ridgefield Committee, Arts Council, and Ridgefield Clergy Association. For many years she led “Folk Song Singalongs” at the library and initiated “Menorahs on Main Street” to add a touch of Hanukkah in store windows.
Cantor Debbie gained national recognition as founder of the Women’s Cantors’ Network. She hosted several conferences in Ridgefield. Most memorable was when musical theater composer and lyricist Stephen Schwarz performed several of his Broadway hit songs for the group. A student of Nobel Peace Prize laureate Elie Wiesel, Cantor Debbie is writing a book about his teachings.
Cantor Debbie has created personalized prayer shawls for her congregants. Seeing their vibrant colors in the pews gives her great joy. She is most proud of the one she made for Rabbi Reiner when he arrived in Ridgefield. “I cherish the tallit (Jewish prayer shawl) she created for me,” says Rabbi Reiner. “It incorporates pieces of fabric from the jacket my mother, of blessed memory, had worn at my bar mitzvah. Whenever I lead services wrapped in my tallit, I feel my mother’s embrace. We are better as a congregation and community for Cantor Debbie’s tremendous contributions and already miss her music, energy, and leadership.”